Modern life gives you endless options. Because of that, confusion can feel normal, not personal. Social media, family expectations, past experiences, and cultural pressure can also shape what you think you “should” want.
In this episode, Dr Steve Wolfson helps you notice how outside influence becomes internal pressure. As a result, you can start separating values from performance. You do not need a full life plan straight away. Instead, you need clarity on what matters and what drives your choices.
This conversation supports you if you feel pulled in different directions. It also helps if you keep choosing what looks right, while it feels wrong. Therefore, the goal is to reconnect with what you want and why it matters.
What you will learn
- How outside influence becomes internal noise
- Why “I should” often replaces “I want”
- How comparison shifts your decision-making
- A first step to rebuild clarity when you feel stuck
- How to choose a direction without perfect certainty
Try this after listening
First, choose one decision you keep delaying. Next, write two lists.
- Reasons I want this
- Reasons I think I should do this
Then circle the reasons linked to your values. After that, cross out reasons linked only to approval, fear, or image. Finally, choose one small action that matches your values, and do it within 24 hours.
Keep going
Continue the series here: The Good Shift series.
Use Neury® to practise clarity and track patterns: Explore Neury®.
If you want guided support through Psychotherapy, supported by our Psychology Clinic, book here: Book an appointment.
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